Our Story

Before August 5, 2006, we were a normal happy family; a Mom, a Dad and two beautiful boys. We didn't realize it at that time, but we had everything we wanted in life; a loving marriage, two healthy boys, a beautiful house, and jobs that allowed us to pursue our professional dreams while balancing the needs of our family. Like most parents we had many dreams for our kids. We were looking forward to watching our two boys grow. It's amazing now to think how quickly our lives would be turned upside down.

We were visiting friends and having a wonderful time. Aiden was swimming with Mommy and enjoying himself. Later he had some grapes and crackers. As the day wound down, Aiden let us know that it was time for bed. We put him to sleep in the bedroom around 8 PM. Just before 10 PM, we gathered our things to head home for the night. When we entered the bedroom, we found Aiden cold and lifeless. We called 911, performed CPR and waited for help. The EMTs worked frantically to save our little boy. They were able to restart his heart but he was unresponsive. He was airlifted to a major hospital where he was placed on life support. Despite everyone’s best efforts, Aiden passed away on August 7, 2006.

Our hearts were broken and our world was shattered.

One of the things we are truly grateful for is Nicholas. He has given us hope, purpose and the strength to wake up each day. However we’ve always thought of Nick as one of our children, not as our only child. Nick was a great big brother and he misses having a sibling.

After careful thought, we have decided to pursue the possibility of adding another member to our family. We know another child will not change the fact that Aiden has died. We will live with that loss for every remaining day of our lives. But I think it would give us all something positive to look forward to. It would make our family whole again. To make Nick the big brother he was meant to be.

After Aiden was born, Kathy had a tubal ligation. (We were very happy to be a family of four.) As a result of this voluntary action, no insurance carrier will cover us for the fertility treatments that will be necessary. In addition, our insurance company will not allow us to add maternity coverage to our existing policy until the open enrollment period next year. We are therefore going to have to pay for the IVF treatment and maternity expenses ourselves. We are expecting those cost to exceed $30,000.

We are now trying to raise the necessary funds and we hope you can help. If everyone who reads this would pledge $5 or $10 it would help with ease some of the stress, anguish, frustration and heart ache that we as a family have been experiencing since the loss of Aiden.

We are doing all we can to raise the funds necessary. Brian has sold his car, many items are being sold on eBay and financial frugality is the norm. Even with these actions we still need help from others. There is no denying that this family has suffered greatly and now needs the help of friends and strangers alike.

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